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Why I Chose Online Dating As A BBW

I really like it when someone is enthusiastic about online dating in general, and especially about online BBW dating. This is certainly a crazy world and often there are too many bad things happening and we really should give attention to love instead, so anytime someone wants to speak about love, dating, and friendship, I’m all for it!

I suppose it all started some 5-6 years ago. I had been in my mid-20s when I first started considering about myself as a BBW and it kind of happened thanks to my circle of friends. I am talking about before that, people would just call me fat or chubby or “fat but pretty” and those varieties of things, and I never realized there was this thing called BBW that I actually belonged to. One particular day I was reading an article online and I had to Google this one term, BBW, and when I did, it essentially was me in a nutshell. I then researched some more and saw some pictures of these amazing girls who were plus-sized, stunning and sexy. It was the truth for me personally. There was an entire world where a large woman is the queen. I actually instantly decided I desired to be queen too.

I mean, now i am not into the whole BBW “scene” and i also don’t shoot any videos or pictures or do my hair and face up in a certain way and stuff. I’m simply a regular girl who actually is overweight or whatever and who is also attractive to many people. I avoid the whole fetish thing. I don’t want to date someone who is only attracted to extra fat chicks because I’m more than a fat girl. However, I can’t really reject the “BBW scene” either because I gained so much from it. I owe it my confidence and my great new circle of friends and even a romance or two.

I think I started my first account on an online dating website some seven or eight years back. It had been a regular website, one of the massive ones, I no longer remember exactly. I had been considering, what the heck, I’ve got anything to lose. I liked it immediately because at the time I still experienced some self-confidence issues and I definitely felt more secure and cozier behind a keyboard, with carefully chosen pics of myself and a curated profile. After a while, I actually became more relaxed and open and i also started approaching people by myself, talking them up, and even asking for a date.

The more I investigated the world of online dating, I realized there were so many “scenes” and niches and that there are a lot of them that were designed for women like me. At first I didn’t like the idea of being placed in that particular niche, because I was afraid I was going to be exposed to a lot of freaks and creeps. But then an associate, who is also a BBW, turned me on to the bbw dating website she was often hanging out at, so I decided to give it a go. I eventually managed to move on from that first website but remained in the “scene. “

I love so many things about bbw dating. For example, I like the honesty. When you see a girl’s account on a BBW dating site, you instantly know that she’s a large woman even if you only see her face or whatever. In other, more general dating websites, pictures can be deceiving, purposely or not, which makes room for a lot of misconception and potentially even a lot of hurt. It used to happen to me a great deal when some guy starts talking to me and things would be going great. Then he would ask for full body pics. I would oblige and send him some, then he simply logs off or goes hidden or even worse, blocks me. I even got some very hurtful insults. You won’t get that at BBW dating websites, because it goes without saying that girls are BBWs and the guys are into them. So you omit those awkward painful steps.

But that is just one part. Generally there is also this sense of camaraderie, between girls who are all pretty much having the same problem. We’re all just friendly and open and kind to each other. These websites are usually very safe places and the people are so laid back and open up for new contacts. I absolutely like the convenience. Yet that’s something that can be applied to almost any online dating site, not just BBW dating. After all, you can spend the entire night talking to a cute boy you have a crush on and you don’t have to comb your hair..LOL. Ok, sometimes you can flip your camera on and have a webchat or whatever, but it’s not like you have to go to a bar or a club to meet folks. They are immediately there, in your computer. Doesn’t get more convenient than that!

You need to be smart though and I’ve discovered the hard way about online safety. There are some rules you have to follow, some precautions to make if you wish to protect yourself from stalkers and predators that are hanging out around the web. BBW dating websites are no exception, although the ones I frequent are incredibly safe and clean.

Here are some safety tips I’ve discovered. First of all, avoid rushing into anything. Really get to know the person before meeting them. Second, never, at any time use your full name. You can use your first name but never the first and the last one, particularly in your account. Do not share your phone number, your address, or any sort of personal info, until you are definate you’re dealing with a good respectable, normal person. In fact, I never give out my phone or my address until the second or third date. And above all, do not give away your social security number, bank account number, or other potention identity theft information like that.

I’ve been on some dates through online bbw dating. It’s like regular dating, blind dating or whatever. You meet someone, you click, you feel like there might be something there, so you date him. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.

I did meet this phenomenal man online, and we talked to one another every evening. Following some time, a month or so, we made the decision to meet. The first date was amazing, because we already knew so much about the other person and we were very relaxed. We dated for almost a year. Unfortunately, in the end it didn’t work. There were some “irreconcilable differences” as they say. In addition to that, he got a job across the country, and it would have had to turn into a long distance relationship, we both agreed it would never work. So we split up, but it was very amicable and clean and we still keep in touch. He’s a great person and I love that he was a part of my life.

Love is definitely out there for BBW women and the men that admire them. Don’t be shy and take that leap of faith. Give it a try. There are online bbw dating sites out there that just may have your perfect match!

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