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Time to Start Dating Again!

I’ll just say it…I’m a big woman! So where do I turn to find someone great to be in a relationship with? Meeting someone “by chance” just isn’t an option when you’re a curvy, plus-size girl. The usual “first impression” isn’t favorable, in my experience. Men, as a rule, are always looking for that “super model”, and that’s just not fair. We big girls have so much to offer if men would just get past our weight and get to know us – our “inner selves”. I’m sure there’s others out there who feel the same way.

Dating can be one of the most difficult parts of a woman’s life (it’s been my experience), but being extra curvy, to put it lightly, can make dating that much more complicated. First dates often take place in a bar or a restaurant where food and/or “munchies” are provided, right? That just makes our first dates (if we’re lucky to get one!) even more awkward since we “big girls” don’t want to make a bad impression on our dates when we order. Just sayin’!

I’ve struggled through bad dates and worse judgments. I’ve been ridiculed about my weight from as far back as I can remember and have suffered from low self-esteem as a result. But I’m older now, and even more determined to put all of that in my past and move on. As a result, the search began! (lol)

Big Women need love, too, and to my surprise, I found a dating service for BBW singles, that matched me with men who were actually looking for only plus-size women. I couldn’t believe it! I’ve been on several first dates through this dating service and am happy to report that I’ve had the most fun and relaxing times I’ve ever had on a date. I have a lot of dating to catch up on over the years, so it was a wonderful surprise when I found this dating service that matches up men who are only seeking curvy, plus-size women.

Having connected with this dating service now to help me find my “Mr. Right”, I have to say that I’m not in as big of a hurry as I originally intended in finding a good man. I’m having such a great time with the men largeandlovely.com are matching me with that I’m taking my time with narrowing down which men I want to see more often and, hopefully, form a serious relationship with. And why shouldn’t I? I want a “real”, long-lasting relationship and that takes time to get to know whoever it is you feel could “be the one”.

One of the most important things that every woman should have, I think, before entering into a relationship is a healthy dose of self-confidence. Not an easy thing when you’re a big girl who has been ridiculed her whole life! Especially when a man takes you to a nice restaurant on a first date (the most common first date place) and you’re very self-conscious about what to order (so he won’t regard you as a glutton) while you’re worrying about him staring at the skinny girl at the table next to you! How can you possibly relax on a date like that – not to mention enjoy the date?

All of that is now behind me because of this wonderful dating service I came across. I hope many other big girls out there check it out and share their experiences so that others can benefit, too. No good can come from blind dates – you’re only asking for judgment and ridicule (most often behind your back the next day to his friends), so you all owe it to yourselves to be “good to yourself” and have the same great times all those skinny girls out there enjoy! (lol)

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