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Show Your Confidence!

I think we can all agree that dating isn’t exactly easy. But if you’re a plus-size woman, dating can be not only difficult, but also frustrating. The first step in relieving the stress, anxiety, and disappointments associated with dating while trying to find your soul mate is to accept yourself for who you are and keep your confidence high.

An overweight single should not feel the need to apologize for his or her weight, nor should they feel like they have to explain how they got that way as a defense mechanism when feelings of inadequacy begin closing in. You should embrace who you are, and what you have to offer, and realize that a person’s weight has nothing to do with their self-worth. Nor does it have anything to do with your ability to love and be loved.

So how does one find ‘unshakeable confidence’ in a society that puts skinny girls on pedestals? You need to learn how to accept yourself, no matter what! It’s important to muster up confidence in order to accept yourself for the beautiful person that you are. Okay…not everyone will like you. But that’s OK! Are you attracted to every person you meet? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and when you learn to accept yourself for the beautiful person that you are – curves, love handles and all! – your confidence will shine through.

I tested out my new-found confidence when I discovered a wonderful online bbw dating service: largeandlovely.com. I was matched with men who are actually looking for women like me, and that took away all of the stress and anxiety of those “first glances” when meeting a date for the first time. Dating is now fun and exciting!

Stop thinking that others may find you unattractive. It’s those assumptions that rob you of relaxing and enjoying your life. What’s important is how you view yourself. Do you assume, because of your size, that you can’t wear certain clothes? Or that certain people, based on their looks or background, won’t be interested in you? Rid yourself of these kinds of assumptions and make a serious effort to live your life without them. You’ll be surprised at just how much confidence you’ll gain. Others will see that confidence first and won’t care about your size!

However, always be honest when dating, especially when posting pictures of yourself on bbw dating sites. Upload pictures that honestly represent your appearance in order to avoid embarrassing situations. Photos that don’t accurately represent how you currently look are a recipe for disaster – for both parties. The person who initially saw the photos is likely to feel deceived, disappointed, and turned off. That’s no way to begin a possible romantic relationship! Weight and body type are often criteria questions when creating a profile for an online bbw dating service like Large and Lovely, and is often an important part of one’s matching criteria. It’s also something that people rarely change their minds about. Men complain about women who appear to be 10 or 20 pounds lighter in photos, and vice versa. Contrary to what they may have hoped to gain by that type of deception, they’re almost never interested enough to look past that lie.

Focus on your strengths and learn how to accentuate the positive. There’s sure to be some parts of you that you really like. Maybe it’s your eyes, or your hands, or your cleavage. Accent those parts with makeup, clothing, jewelry or a shimmery body lotion. The more you do that, the more confidence you’ll build and the more that part of you will shine through.

Lastly, remember that literally everyone experiences rejection at some point in their life, regardless of their size. Rejection is just a normal part of dating, but it should never lower your confidence or self-esteem. It’s important to remind yourself that rejection happens to everyone. It’s just part of dating. If you’re always blaming your size for your dating woes, it’s time to stop that! The solution is to date more, rather than less. Rejection hurts a lot less when you have a date lined up for the next night.

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