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See The Real Me!

Unfortunately, we live in a very superficial society. Being a woman, if you’re not a size 2, with perfect, beautiful white teeth and flawless skin, you’re pretty much in for some of the cruelest teasing and judgments during your formidable years. And, unfortunately, it doesn’t stop as you get older. As a society, we think that smaller means more attractive. And so we try to make ourselves look smaller in the most difficult ways. Just look at all of the TV ads, magazine ads…it’s everywhere! I grew up in the sixties when Twiggy was every young girl’s “idol”. So being overweight from a young age and on wasn’t any fun!

I’m well into adulthood now, and the cruel taunting, gawking and whispers still continue – although, in much more subtle ways. You would think grown-ups would be more mature and have a sense of compassion, understanding, and respect – but you’d be wrong! Everyone’s entitled to their opinions, but when those opinions are openly used to criticize, make fun of, hurt, and downright embarrass others, well, that says a lot about what our society has become.

And it’s everywhere! In the schoolyards, in the workplace, on the streets, in shopping centers. There’s nowhere to just be left alone to enjoy life like everyone else. This unfortunate fact of life makes it difficult in the dating world, as well. For some of us, the torment we’ve suffered throughout our lives makes us reclusive and self-conscious causing us to “miss out” on what life and love have to offer. But for others like me, it makes us strong and determined. I pride myself in being one of the lucky ones. It was my determination to seek out a good man to love me in a strong and loving relationship that led to my checking out BBW dating services.

I discovered that dating sites such as this helped me to find men who genuinely prefer large, curvy women, as opposed to those perfect sized 2’s. This eliminated the “automatic” self-conscious issues I dealt with throughout my life. I began to envision having dinner with a date without worrying about whom he’d be staring at instead of focusing on me, or how he would try to hide his embarrassment of being seen with me at a dinner table while the waiter takes my order. We’ve all been there, right?

Utilizing a BBW dating service gave me matches with men who were compassionate and who were genuinely looking for larger women. That fact alone told me that these men are truly interested in us, as people, and are not the superficial type. It also led to great conversations!

One specific conversation led me to an organization that I never knew existed, but which has really helped me to appreciate myself for the wonderful person I am – no matter what my size. That organization is: www.naafa.org. NAAFA (National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance) is a non-profit organization that strives to eliminate discrimination based on body size and offers fat people the tools needed for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.

My involvement with www.naafa.org has had amazing results, especially with my recent dating experiences. My matches with the men I’ve met through a BBW dating service, coupled with my new self-confidence, have made for some exciting and fun first dates. I’m happy to say that for the first time in many years, my hope of finding love is more in sight than ever! I would encourage all large women out there to check out NAAFA and see if you, too, find the success and overall peace that I’ve now found. You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain!

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