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Men Do Like Curvy Women

Society is image-conscious. That’s no surprise. And it takes a very secure man to advertise his preference for a woman’s body size if he prefers a “little meat on the bone”. Regardless of how many magazines featuring plus-size women, in our mainstream culture, a woman who’s heavy isn’t considered as attractive as a woman who’s not. Ultimately, everyone’s looking to get to the next level, and for many men, a larger woman is the bottom level, regardless of what she’s like on the inside.

There’s a misconception that plus-size women are insecure in their bodies. Yes, there have been times when I’ve felt uncomfortable at bars because guys talk to my friends and not me. And if I spot a group of men snickering at me, that always makes me extremely self-conscious. But regardless, my size has never deterred me in my search for a good man to spend my life with.

I started my search on bbw dating sites. Before doing so, I didn’t know that there actually were men out there who genuinely preferred big girls with curves, in addition to a great personality. After receiving a surprising amount of emails, I now know that the skinny white girl is not preferred by all men. There are cultures and races that prefer plus-size women. I’ve had really in-shape guys, bodybuilders even, contact me. I discovered that they like the contrast of hard and soft. They like the feeling of being with someone who’s bigger than they are and the voluptuousness of a plus-size body.

Challenges do come, though, with being bigger. Sex isn’t always a physically easy task. I was fooling around with someone who I’d been out with a few times and when I was trying to move over him, he said, “Your weight is hurting me.” That threw me back to reality! I felt so confident that night. I was wearing a hot new outfit and in one short sentence, he brought me down. It took me by surprise because we’d never talked about my weight before.

And then there’s the feeding fetish of a plus-size woman, wanting her to be in control, to be physically bigger. I’ve actually been contacted by men on bbw dating sites who have asked me if I’d be open to a feeding relationship, which I’m not. It means they want to be with somebody who likes to eat, who they can feed and would consider gaining a lot of weight. They get off on the visual of a fat woman eating. Yuk!

But I think there’s a fine line between someone who’s a fetishist and someone who’s not. I struggle with the term because what’s the difference between a fetish and a preference? Guys are always attracted, in my opinion, to the “unusual”. Everybody is, don’t you think? So what’s the difference between hooking up with a fetishist and just hooking up with someone casually? Is someone who likes plus-size girls a fetishist just because his preference isn’t mainstream? For me, this is definitely food for thought.

Thanks to bbw dating sites, I’ve found someone who has given me a new perspective on life, in general. He definitely cares about me and loves spending time with me. Life is more fun than I ever imagined it could be. He’s opened my eyes to the fact that there are a lot of men out there who prefer plus-size women and that they see the “real me” and not just my size. I feel very secure and confident when I’m with him and I’m looking forward to years of love and contentment. Don’t let your fears or self doubts keep you from finding a true and loving relationship. There are guys out there waiting for the love and companionship that a bbw woman can give and are genuinely looking for someone with curves. Give yourself the opportunity to find that passion and be happy.

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