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See The Inner Me!

Growing up was brutal! I’ve always been very overweight from a young age. Some studies will tell you it’s because I wasn’t fed properly in my formidable years. Others speculate that it’s a glandular problem. And still others accuse that it’s just that I can’t stop eating and use food as a “crutch” when I’m depressed or unhappy in any way. At any rate, I’ve always been a curvy, plus-sized girl/woman.

It goes without saying that school was no picnic, either. High school, in particular, was brutal! I had to endure the other kids’ hurtful remarks, like – “You’re too fat to date,” “You’re pretty… for a big girl,” “What do you expect? You’re fat!” And, of course, the boys just wanted to be “friends”. Heaven forbid they be seen dating a fat girl and the ridicule that would bring them!

Did I try and ignore it? I tried. Did it make me cry? Absolutely. But overall, those words helped me become the person I am today – a strong, independent woman who’s ready for love.

Individuals are drawn to those who feel good about themselves and who have confidence, regardless of size. Going on first dates, armed with my new-found confidence and being matched with men through bbw dating services who already knew about my size, allowed for truthful conversations which gave me the means to really “know” the who I am and how to show men the “real” me. Large sized people are no different than the size 2’s…we, too, have so much to offer the right person.

When you have the mindset that you’re lucky to take anything you can get, you’re setting yourself up for major disappointment. I suggest that you avoid that sort thinking and re-visit all of your wonderful qualities – qualities that any good man would welcome and be grateful for sharing with you. Fat or not fat, everyone deserves truth, respect, love, friendship, and romance.

I’m a plus-sized woman who has spent my entire life feeling inadequate and invisible, unless I’m in public and then I’m very much “visible” by others. That doesn’t make dating an easy task. We ladies are all beautiful and very much sought after. We’re just looking for a perfect match like anyone else, not desperate for any match. BBW dating sites have helped me find those perfect matches and have brought fun back into dating.

In my experience, when meeting someone for the first time, the first thing I see is the look on their face when they see my body. It feels like their whole “first impression” of me immediately changes and is clearly headed towards “see ya later”! Being attracted to someone is very different than only seeing their physical attributes when you look at them. No one wants to start a relationship with someone who only sees you as an object, of any type.

Dating as a plus-sized woman is very difficult. BBW dating, for me, at least gives me hope that there really are men out there, and just people in general, who are interested in the “inner”, beautiful person that I am rather than just “ruling me out” based on my physical appearance. There is so much more to plus-sized women – interesting interests, values, accomplishments, ideas…the list goes on. No differently than the size 2 women out there who “open the door” just by walking into the room!

Change and opinions about ourselves can’t happen unless we begin to believe in ourselves and see ourselves as vibrant women who have a lot to offer the right person. Firmly believing that will “shine through” to the man sitting across from you.

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