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Online Dating for Plus-Size Women

Dating can be scary no matter what your body size, but being a plus sized girl can be… an experience. Let’s face it, it’s downright frustrating! My thinner friends don’t seem to have as much of a problem where dating is concerned. When going out to bars and clubs with them, I seem to become invisible. So, for me, online dating seemed a choice I needed to make to meet men without all of the “first sight” pressure.

One night, one of my thin co-workers, and friend, and I made a bold decision to join a new dating site just to see what would happen. I like a challenge, so when she asked me to sign up with her, I joyfully agreed. We set up our profiles, added a few one-liners, uploaded photos, and called it a day. The next morning my thin friend had 10 messages — I had two. And one of them was a welcome message from the owner of the site. I’m guessing he wasn’t interested in a date!

Obviously, our profiles weren’t the same, but after about a week, my thin friend was coming to work late from being out late with guys she was meeting online. Being a witness to my friend’s success on this dating site made me very aware of the slow trickle of men interested in me. I didn’t know it was possible to get so many messages in one day until she showed me her inbox. They may not have all been keepers, but the attention sure was flowing her way.

I felt invisible again! Deep down, we all know that quality wins over quantity every time, but when you’re the one waiting on quality while your skinny friends have a million first dates, it’s not an easy road. But I wasn’t going to let it get the best of me. I decided to do a little more online dating research. And my research paid off! I came across an online bbw dating service called: largeandlovely.comSuddenly, my inbox was becoming full! Men were contacting me who were truly interested in me and not just my “body type”.

Meanwhile, not having deleted the profile I set up with my friend on that other dating site, men were finding their way into my inbox, finally! The first message was from a man who sent me a long paragraph about how he wanted to be my love slave, whatever that means. And then he told me I was welcome to humiliate him and dominate him as much as I wanted to. Delete!

Another man and I messaged back and forth for a few days, until he asked if he could feed me so that I could gain weight for him. What? Delete — and block!

Finally, I had enough of that. Why was I wasting my time? I deleted my account on that other site and began focusing just on the bbw dating site. One message, in particular, was from a handsome man with a great sense of humor. After messaging for a few days, he asked if I wanted to grab a drink with him. We had a wonderful first date. And, to my thin friend’s surprise, I was the one coming late to work the next morning!

Trying to find love as a plus-size girl can feel like everyone has an amazing dating life but you. It can feel like you can only attract people who have issues or fetishes. But it doesn’t have to be that way. The men I’ve been dating through this online bbw dating site have given me truly wonderful dating experiences. These are men who know how it feels to be judged by your size. Men who are looking for the same thing that you’re looking for… a loving, lasting relationship.

Even though my thin friend went on twice as many dates as I did, none of them turned into anything substantial. On the other hand, one of the men I’ve been dating successfully is still a keeper. Maybe there is something to this quality versus quantity thing after all!

Do you have a story to tell about your online bbw dating experience?  Let us know.

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