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Men Really Do Like to Date BBW Women

I prefer to use the term BBW — Big, Beautiful Woman. I grew up in a small town and there wasn’t much of a dating pool. I was definitely never insecure, but I was involved with church back then, so I didn’t really date. Then I moved away and all that changed.

I came to a revelation and finally figured out that there really are guys out there that were also attracted to bigger girls. When I was in my early twenties a friend of mine showed me on Yahoo that there was a BBW chat room, so I got on that and started talking to people. Much to my surprise I found that there’s an entire community. Now there are even dating sites that are exclusively for people like me who are plus size and real men who are admirers of fuller figured women.

There were parties like a big dance with a buffet and a DJ. I was skeptical at first, but found It’s not really just about hooking up. It’s more about meeting new people and hanging out. There were even clothing exchanges with some of the girls. It’s a body positive thing for sure. A lot of these women have had surgeries and have lost weight, but they still stay involved with the community.

We all know it’s harder for most BBW women to go to the bars and pick a guy up because they don’t know if the guy is interested or not or the butt of some cruel joke. I don’t have that problem, because if you’re not interested, whatever, that’s your problem. I’m not afraid to flirt with somebody. I go out dancing every weekend. So I’ve never had problems at the bar. If I’m interested in somebody I let them know. It’s their loss if they don’t want to take the time to get to know me.

With dating sites like Tinder, it’s based solely on their appearance and looks which is too superficial for me. But now there are bbw dating sites which exclusively cater to bbw women and men who want a real relationship which makes the dating process so much more appealing and easier for bbw women who may be to shy or self conscious to even try dating. I think that it’s easier to say, “This is what I am interested in so I am going to message this person. If that’s the body type they’re interested in, online bbw dating makes that a lot easier.

When a guy sends a big girl at the bar a drink, she might think, “Oh, is he making fun of me?” With online bbw dating, they’re not going to message you unless they are interested.

I’m 32 now and I normally only date fairly fit guys. My type is “fit with a good job”. I didn’t decide to date fit guys; that’s just who I’m attracted to. I have plenty of guy friends that are not attracted to big girls; they only date skinny girls. And I don’t judge them for that because, like I said, I am only attracted to certain types as well.

There is fetishism of the BBW dating community, so I make it very clear when I start talking to somebody online that if they’re not attracted to all body types, I won’t date them. That is important to me because I have lost 100 pounds before and I wouldn’t want somebody to not be attracted to me because of that. I’ve heard stories of men that only like bbw women because they are actually attracted to the weight or even worse feeders that get pleasure out of seeing their woman gain weight. It is not the majority of men you will find on bbw dating sites, but they are out there, so beware.

Most of my BBW friends date guys of all sizes. I think some of them are attracted to bigger guys, but actually I would say it’s about half and half.

I don’t think men judge women for their looks any more than women judge men. It goes both ways. I think most women have to get over their own insecurities and realize that there are plenty of men who find them attractive, and if a couple don’t, that’s fine. They don’t realize how much fun they are or how attractive they really are. Just because a guy isn’t attracted to you doesn’t mean there aren’t other men who are. Find your bbw dating site and find your niche.

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