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Inside the Looking Glass

Unfortunately, we live in a very superficial world. From a woman’s standpoint, if you’re not a size 2, with perfect, beautiful white teeth and flawless skin, you’re pretty much in for some of the cruelest taunting during your formidable years. And it doesn’t stop as you get older. As a society, we try to find ways to make ourselves look smaller and think that smaller equals more attractive. Just look at all of the TV ads, magazine ads…it’s everywhere! I grew up in the sixties when Twiggy was every young girl’s “idol”. So being overweight from a young age and on wasn’t any fun.

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I’m well into adulthood now, and the taunting still continues – although, in much more subtle ways. You would think grown-ups would have a sense of compassion, understanding, and respect, but you’d be wrong. Everyone’s entitled to their opinions, but when those opinions are openly used to criticize, make fun of, and downright embarrass others, well, that says a lot about what our society has become.

Why must they gawk!

And it’s everywhere! – in the schoolyards, in the workplace, on the street, in shopping centers. There’s nowhere to just be left alone to enjoy life like everyone else. This fact of life makes it difficult in the dating world, too. For some, the torment they’ve suffered throughout their lives makes them reclusive and self-conscious causing them to “miss out” on what life and love have to offer. But for others like me, it makes them strong and determined. I pride myself in being one of the lucky ones. It was my determination to seek out a good man to love me that led to my finding the perfect online dating service: largeandlovely.com.

I discovered that this online dating service finds men who genuinely prefer large, curvy women, as opposed to those perfect sized 2’s. Knowing that eliminated the “automatic” self-conscious issues I dealt with throughout my life. I began to visualize having dinner with my date without worrying about whom he’d be staring at instead of focusing on me, or how he would try to hide his embarrassment of being seen with me at a dinner table while the waiter takes my order. We’ve all been there, right?

Well, it was through this wonderful online dating service that I was matched with men who were compassionate and who were specifically looking for larger women. That fact alone told me that these men are truly interested in us, as people, and are not the superficial type. It also led to great conversations!

One specific conversation led me to an organization that I never knew existed, but which has really helped me to appreciate myself for the wonderful person I am – no matter what my size. That organization is: www.naafa.org. NAAFA (National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance) is a non-profit organization that works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provides fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.

My involvement with NAAFA has had amazing results, even with my recent dating experiences. My matches with the men I’ve met through largeandlovely.com, coupled with my new self-confidence, have made for some exciting and fun first dates. I’m happy to say, for the first time in many years, that my hope of finding love is more alive than ever! I would encourage any other large women out there to check out this online dating service, as well as NAAFA, and see if you, too, find the happiness and overall peacefulness I’ve found. You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain!

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