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I’m So Excited!

I discovered that there’s an academy for dating, which is so helpful, especially for us large and curvy women who have had bad experiences with dating.

The Smart Dating Academy in Chicago, founded by Bela Gandhi, was designed with the sole purpose of helping single men and women find the partners of their dreams. She started this business because she believes in love and believes love exists for every person on this planet.  I agree! Her dating tips gave me so much more confidence when going out on first dates.

To add to my excitement, I also found an online dating service – largeandlovely.com – that specializes in helping large, bbw curvy women find men who are only seeking the same. I found my first dates through this service to be so comfortable since all of my apprehensions were eliminated from the start.

Using some of Bela Gandhi’s precautions and tips also added to my successful first dates. She said, “The first thing you need to do is get to your positive self.” She says, “If you don’t believe that you’re going to find love, guess what’s going to happen? You’re not going to find it.” Again, I agree! So I’m going to share some of her tips with you:

Good photos are key

Ninety percent of online success is based on photos. That goes for both men and women. The most important photo is your opening head-shot. It’s the one that will get people’s attention and make them click. Smile and look at the camera so there’s a clear shot of your face. You should be alone in the photos (no friends, family, pets or babies). 

Dress to impress

Dressing up for photos in your profile will go a long way. Gandhi recommends doing your hair and makeup like you would for an important date. And wear pretty, solid-colored blouses and shirts that are fitted, but don’t reveal too much.

Check your grammar

Poor spelling and grammar are pretty universal turn offs. Of 1,000 people surveyed by Smart Dating Academy, more than 60 percent of respondents said they would not respond to someone with poor grammar.

 

Be positive

Avoid talking about your divorces, or expressly stating what you’re not looking for. Gandhi says that showing your warm, fun side humanizes you to others.

Be concise

Profiles should be about 300-350 words, not too long and not too short. You should use those words to describe yourself and what you’re looking for by showing, not telling (for example, write some adventurous things you’ve done instead of saying you’re “adventurous”). 

Pick a great username and headline

Picking 3-5 adjectives that describe you can help come up with an interesting username. For example, if you’re a nurse who is also a great cook, “TopChefNurse” could be a great username. 

Refine your picker

Make a “marriage map” with the qualities you’re really looking for. The ones you find in people you enjoy spending time with will help you navigate the millions of people online. Think of it as your road map to dating.

Create a plan

Finding a plan you can stick with is the only way to really get what you want out of online dating. You’re in it to win it! And that means spending 30-60 minutes each day working at your goal.

Prepare your talking points

Just like in a job interview, it helps to practice what you’re going to say. Knowing exactly how to talk about your job, why you’re single, and your family, can help you both ease your nerves on that first date and also prevent over sharing. 

Believe that you will find love

Surround yourself with positive people who will help you in your search.

I hope you all find the success I did in using Bela’s tips, and I do hope you check out largeandlovely.com, as well. Between these two resources, I’ve found dating to be so exciting, fun, positive, and hopeful that I’ll find my true love. Share your experiences, too!

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