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I Won’t Settle!

“Fat girls try harder.” And, unfortunately, you will find men out there that like to prey on plus-sized women since we’re thought to have lower self confidence and self-esteem. We should be happy for any attention we get and satisfied with what we end up getting. Wrong!

For starters, I refuse to settle. And fortunately, I don’t have to. I was lucky enough to come across an online dating service: largeandlovely.com. This dating service matches only large men and women who are looking for large counterparts to explore the possibility of a lasting relationship. I refuse to be satisfied with somebody who is unkind to me in any way, especially if it’s due to my size. And I refuse to go on another date with a man who is embarrassed to be seen with me in public.

For a long time, I convinced myself that it was better to be alone after horrible and humiliating dates. But I was only hurting myself and cheating a good man out of everything I have to offer. When I found Large and Lovely, my life changed! I was matched with men who were not only large themselves, but who could relate to everything I’ve been through due to my size. That made first dates very comfortable and being so much more relaxed. What used to be “dreading” going on dates turned into happy “anticipation”!

Individuals are drawn to those who feel good about themselves and who have confidence, regardless of size. Going on first dates through this wonderful dating service, armed with my new-found confidence and being matched with men who already knew about my size, allowed for truthful conversations which gave me the means to really “know” the man I was with, and vice versa. Large sized people are no different than the size 2’s…we, too, have so much to offer the right person.

When you have the mindset that you’re lucky to take anything you can get, you’re setting yourself up for major disappointment. I suggest that you avoid that sort thinking and re-visit all of your wonderful qualities – qualities that any good man would welcome and be grateful for sharing with you. Fat or not, everyone deserves truth, respect, love, friendship, and romance. Thankfully, I’m able to experience all of that through my matches. I’ve never had so much fun!

One of my favorite dating places now is restaurants. Before discovering this dating service, standard first dates were usually dinner at a nice restaurant. As much as I wanted to go on the date, hoping he would be “Mr. Right”, I was plagued with feelings of dread – would I see that look of disappointment when he’d first lay eyes on me, would he be embarrassed to be seen with me, should I just order a salad and then really eat when I got back home…the list went on. But now, I’m happy to say that both my date and I are very relaxed and comfortable. I’m not worried about him eyeing the size 2 at the table next to us. And we can both enjoy a nice, relaxing, and fun meal together, including dessert!

When I look back on all of the years of ridicule I endured, both from children in my childhood (they can be so cruel) and from adults, who should know better, it makes me more thankful for the wonderful life I now have. I’ve gone on several first dates through this online BBW dating site and am happy to say that one man, in particular, has become very special to me. I wish I could reach all of you men and women out there and urge you to try this wonderful dating service. You’ve got nothing to lose! If you do, please share your comments so that others may benefit from them, too.


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