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Fat People Myths & BBW Dating

Since childhood, I’ve always been overweight and have been subjected to judgments and opinions by others. Both of my parents worked and so our dinners were usually provided for by the drive-thru’s of fast food restaurants. That ritual stayed with me well into adulthood. As a result, my weight paid the price.

This is especially evident in my dating life and the search for someone to spend my life with. I’ve found several prospective mates through an online bbw dating service. I was surprised to find out that they, too, have the same issues and struggles as me, in general. Many conversations have sparked the need to point out some of the “myths” about fat people that are the most common. For those of you reading this, I hope it will shed some light on the unfairness bestowed upon fat people and will serve as educational information. It just might change your opinions the next time you see a fat person.

Why do I feel so strongly about these things? Because they are just the sort of myths about fat people that we, as a society, are led to believe. These myths, although common, are so untrue that it is almost embarrassing. And yet, they are so prevalent and accepted that even fat people believe some of them. Therefore, I am taking this opportunity to debunk three of the biggest myths about fat people and their eating habits.

Fat People Do Nothing But Eat

I wish that were true! It would be nice to eat all of the time and not have to worry about how we’re perceived. Let’s be honest. The restaurant industry, an industry based entirely on eating as a leisure activity, wouldn’t be so lucrative if eating out weren’t fun, convenient, and satisfying. Honestly, I could not make this myth more stupid-sounding if I tried.

Think about any fat person you know or have seen in public. Can you honestly say that you have never seen them not eating? Because most of my close friends and family have definitely seen me doing other things — like working, walking, dancing, going to the theatre, watching TV, reading, spending time on the beach, and so on. We can’t be constantly eating or there would be no time for all this other stuff. It’s physically impossible! If you really think about it, you just might see that fat people do not eat nearly as often as you’ve pre-deceived.

Fat People Eat Nothing But Junk Food

I can’t deny that the origin of this myth is probably understandable. As I stated earlier, our dinners growing up were based on fast food. But if you believe that everybody’s body chemistry and food processing systems are exactly the same, then it certainly stands to reason that fat people are probably eating more calorie-rich foods. Calorie-rich foods, however, are not limited to fast foods. They can also be consumed by foods such as pastas, deserts, etc.

Our food processing body systems are not the same and it is impossible to tell, just by looking at a person, just how much junk food that person eats. It can’t be done because human bodies are too varied for such a deduction. If the size of a person is an indication of how much junk food a person is eating, then I should be bursting out of my clothes fairly often, which I’m not. I’ve found the same to be true of the people I’ve met on bbw dating.

Our bodies have a set weight range which keeps our bodies at its most comfortable state. Our bodies are able to maintain that set weight range extremely well, regardless of how much or how little junk food we put in them. The fact remains that the difference with most fat people is that our set weight range happens to be higher than other people’s. That’s all it is.

Thin People Only Want to Help Because Fat People Know Nothing

There is so much information about fat people who have been advised to read food labels or not to have second helpings or not to buy certain foods. The reasoning for this is that fat people just don’t understand how food works. And so thin people feel the need to intervene. This could not be more condescending!

Deliberately pointing out what fat people should eat is not about ‘helping’ us. It is known as “food policing” and it is a form of bullying fat people and trying to humiliate us. Some even get a cruel satisfaction that bullying provides. Having the support of the people I’ve met on bbw dating sites has helped me not to be so self-conscious if I get a craving for a taco.

Put yourself in my shoes. Imagine that you are a vegetarian and that you have ordered a vegetarian lasagna dinner from the restaurant. However, the beef variety is brought to you instead. You, understandably, ask why you didn’t get what you ordered and the waiter gives you a noticeably fake smile and snickers about you with their co-worker. The manager gets involved and says, “We have recently had some changes to our menus and we feel this variety of lasagna is better suited for someone with an extra need for protein, like yourself.” Instead of feeling as though the restaurant had your best interests at heart, you would certainly feel as though they were trying to humiliate you. Am I correct? If you happened to be this vegetarian’s friend, I’m sure you would see this as the bullying it is and complain.

This happens to fat people all the time. The worst part is, there’s not much we can do about it since the majority in our society sides with the bullies, believing that they are ‘just trying to help’ fat people. But, they’re not!

I have really found help and comfort talking to others on bbw dating sites because they are in my shoes.  We are all human beings that need love and attention.

 

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