...where plus-size women find fashion, lifestyle and love tips.

Don’t Give Up on BBW Dating

You’re an amazing person with so much to give the right person. You’re ready to begin the search. But where to start?

We live in a world of technology these days. The chance meeting of someone (like in the movies) is pretty slim. Not impossible, but slim. You haven’t had much luck meeting your friends’/family’s well-meaning setups. Dating co-workers is never a good idea. So maybe it’s time to get with the times and pursue online bbw dating. It can be fun, exciting, and productive if you put in the time necessary to find that special someone.

The first step is choosing the right dating site. There’s many out there, but few whose intentions are sincere in helping to find compatible matches. There are always going to be people out there who are only interested in “hooking up” and not looking for a long-lasting relationship. The following helpful suggestions may help you sort through the weeds and get to the flowers!

Selecting a Dating Site

As with anything, trying/choosing something on the recommendation of a trusted friend, a family member, or a knowledgeable person, in general, is always wise. My suggestion would be to start your search on bbw dating. This bbw dating site has 20+ years of successfully matching people who are genuinely searching for true love. You’ll meet interesting people who will have the same values, interests, life goals, etc. First dates will be comfortable because you will have gotten to know that person well during the process, leaving you to spend your dates broadening the “getting-to-know-you” stage.

Create Your Profile

It’s very important that you don’t oversell yourself, come across as desperate or needing to be rescued, or try to make people believe that you’re something that you’re not. Doing so will only be revealed soon after meeting for that first date. It’s inevitable.

Instead, be honest. Post a tasteful photo of yourself that you feel shows off your personality. Don’t try to hide your weight. There’s a lid for every pot and, again, stating that you’re a few sizes smaller than you really are will result in your date wondering what else you’re not being honest about. Your goal is to find a person with your same sincerity, so put your best foot forward.

Don’t overstate your interests, likes and dislikes, goals, etc., in your profile. Be fairly brief. Leave some of the mystery-solving for your dates. After all, the whole purpose of bbw dating, and the fun, is to get to know someone. If you put it all out there up front, then possible matches will have no need to meet you. You will have told them everything already.

Come up with a catchy user name that fits your personality and reflects who you are. Remember, people will be scanning through seas of profiles, so try to make yours stand out and have a better chance of being viewed.

Communicate Regularly

This is the part of the process that will be extremely helpful in finding a good match. Check your Inbox daily, if possible, to see who’s interested in you. Answer any that spark your interest or who you think might be a possibility as soon as you can. Letting too much time go by may result in them moving on to someone else who did respond to them.

In your response, again, be fairly brief. Thank them for contacting you and refrain from barraging them with questions or information about yourself. Ask things like, “How was your day?” This gives them the opportunity to tell you what they do for a living rather than you asking. This also gives you an idea of how open they may be to communicate on their own. There’s nothing worse than pulling teeth just to get a simple answer to a simple question, and will give you an idea if you want to pursue anything further from that person. Asking other similar initial questions will have the same effect/result.

Be Patient

Don’t rush into setting a date to meet. Take your time with the messaging back and forth until you feel safe and comfortable meeting someone. You’re meeting online and not everyone may be as sincere and honest as you are. Any discomfort you may feel will be revealed as messaging time goes on. If no flags go up, then you’re ready to meet.

A good idea, too, after messaging has gone on for a while is to maybe talk on the phone before actually meeting. You’ll be able to hear in their voice how they respond to questions and, if they haven’t been honest in their messages, they’ll trip themselves up on the phone. If you find that to be true, then you will have saved yourself a lot of time and effort. But if not, then you’ll have some pretty amazing dates.

When Meeting

When the day/night finally comes to meeting for that first date, dress nicely. Be polite and, above all, “listen” to what they’re saying. Don’t dominate the conversation talking about yourself, past loves (big no-no!), interests, etc. Give the other person a chance to speak. Not everything about them, or yourself, needs to be put on the table in one date. Give yourselves something to talk about on future dates, as well.

 

BBW Dating proven success will give you the edge you need in your search. Don’t limit yourself to just one person who contacts you. Communicate with several until you can whittle it down to the one(s) you’d really like to meet. Enjoy the process. Follow these suggestions faithfully and you will find your flower!

Leave a reply