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Dating Is Now Fun!

I have a wonderful job and a great circle of friends, but it can be a challenge to meet someone new. Adding to these challenges is the fact that I’m a plus-sized, curvy woman, so it’s tricky as far as the dating pool is concerned. The pool got smaller!

So I tried something new – literally put my heart out there – with online dating. I’ve heard a few stories from people who have tried dating online. Some met their true love, while others had truly strange and unhappy experiences.

I was really lucky, however, to have come across the perfect online dating service: largeandlovely.com. This service matches you up only with other large, plus-sized people who are looking for other large people to date and, hopefully, form a lasting relationship with. My matched dates have been wonderfully amazing!

I did use some very helpful tips that I came across, though, when setting up my profile and going out on my dates. Those tips really helped, so I thought I’d share them in the hope that they’ll be as useful for others. I’d also encourage others to check out largeandlovely.com if you’re a plus-sized person looking for love. You won’t be disappointed!

Back to those tips. The suggestion that helped me the most was to keep positive, focusing on what I want rather than what I don’t want in a partner. It’s an exciting time for online dating, according to a recent survey of Canadian singles who have tried online dating. It’s common to meet someone through a friend, family member, or colleague, but that narrows the playing field of meeting the “right” person. It’s important to remember that dating is fun! So trying online dating should be viewed as an “adventure” – one that is designed to help find your true love.

Here are the expert tips I came across and used:

Get help from a friend. Setting up your profile can be awkward. Invite a trusted friend to help you complete your profile. A friend can remind you of your attractive qualities that you may have forgotten to include and can help be on the lookout for typos. Plus, a friend can turn a sometimes difficult task into a fun one.

Keep it short and sweet. That first e-mail is the most difficult, so keep it short and sincere. Comment on a shared interest or ask a question about something in their profile. Avoid asking very personal questions until you’ve exchanged a few messages.

Upload a silly picture. There’s no doubt that a nice photo in which you’re smiling is essential for your online dating profile, but a silly photo can help show off your personality.

Make time. Online dating isn’t that different from offline dating – both take time. Here’s an idea…set one day a week aside for dating and make it your goal to go on a date on that day each week. For example, if Wednesdays work for your schedule, then give yourself several days before Wednesday to connect with someone online and set a date for Wednesday.

Update your profile. You made the decision to register for the website, uploaded some photos, completed your profile, and sent some messages. Your work should be completed, right? Well, we’re all unique people who change all of the time and our profiles should reflect that. So every few weeks or months, do some updates to your profile to include new interests or a new outlook on what you’re looking for in a relationship.

Focus on what you want. When completing your profile, think about what you want out of a relationship rather than what you don’t want. Writing a list of things you don’t want in a partner or relationship runs the risk of looking negative. Instead, list qualities or activities that you enjoy.

Don’t over-think your own profile. Sometimes singles get disparaged from online dating if they get stumped while putting together their profile. It’s important to be unique in your “About Me” section, but if you can’t think of the perfect witty description, then you shouldn’t give up. Do your best and remember that your profile can always be updated.

Don’t obsess over the little things. Is his/her movie taste a bit different than yours? Is he 5’10″ when you prefer guys who are 6’0″ or taller? Remember that you’re looking for a “spark” and not necessarily the perfect man or woman on paper. If their profile makes them seem funny, intelligent, or has another trait that you’re looking for, then it’s okay to overlook the small stuff.

Don’t let one bad date get you down. You’ll have good dates and not-so-good dates, and that’s OK. It’s important to remember that if after a not-so-good date, the date may not have been a complete failure. Did you enjoy meeting a new person? Did you learn something about yourself or about what you’re looking for in a partner? If so, then you’ve already gained something. Perhaps you went through a tough break up and it was your first date as a new single? Even without a spark, it’s still worth being proud of your courage for getting back into the dating scene. Not every date will result in a soul mate, but it’s important to enjoy the ride and have fun while meeting new people.

Utilizing these tips and checking out largeandlovely.com will most certainly add some “spark” in your life. It sure did for me! I’m having a great time and am so much more relaxed while being out on dates. I hope you’ll find as much success as I did.

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