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Dating A Big Girl

As a plus-size woman in the dating world, I’ve found that men who are looking for tips on dating a plus-sized woman should remember immediately that their girl is like every other woman out there. She wants to feel special and beautiful. Accept her for the beautiful person she is, and make her feel your unshakeable confidence that she is the woman you want. Whether a woman is a size 2 or a size 24, chances are she has had feelings of unattractiveness, loneliness, and insecurity. When dating a woman, any woman, a man needs the confidence to slay those demons of attractiveness that are assaulting his girl on the inside.

I’ve met some very intriguing men on bbw dating sites. As a result, I’ve had many interesting and informative conversations about the insecurities many plus-size women have regarding their weight. Especially if they’re dating a thin, fit man. One of the main questions that comes up is: “Why would you choose me over a skinny girl?”

Plus-sized women are beautiful. Being attractive is portrayed in how a woman carries herself, comforts herself, and takes care of herself. Dating a plus-sized woman is no different than dating any other type of woman. You should be aware that like all women, a plus-size woman may have confidence issues and are particularly sensitive to many types of verbal cruelty.

Not all women focus on their weight, but for those that do, comments about her eating or size can be taken the wrong way. Focus on what attracted you to her, and be sure to compliment those traits regularly. Reminding a woman why you see her as fabulous can do wonders to boost her self-confidence and promote confidence in your relationship.

Communication is key to any relationship, especially when it comes to dating. You can’t just assume what a woman wants and enjoys if you don’t talk to her. If you’re meeting a plus-size woman through bbw dating sites, then that’s a good opportunity for good and honest conversations.

Avoid limiting activities based on your perceptions of her size. Many plus-size women love amusement and water parks, as well as going out to dinner and the movies. Don’t let size detour you from taking your date out to do things that you both enjoy. Half the fun of dating is learning what makes your girlfriend feel special.  Ask her what she likes to do, find those common interests, and do them together. Tell her what you like to do, as well.

Sex is another area where women, regardless of size, may or may not have body issues. Every woman wants to feel special, beautiful, and loved in the eyes of her man. If you’ve met her through a bbw dating site, or even if you didn’t, don’t be surprised if she expresses doubts about the attractiveness of her body. While you are not responsible for her self-esteem, you are responsible for letting her know how attractive she is to you.

Treat your lady the way you would like to be treated. Listen to what she says. Respond to what she says in an interested and loving way. Don’t dismiss her insecurities. Work together as a team to find a resolution to your conflict. When conflicts come up, focus on the problem and keep the dialogue open.

She will want to know if she looks good to you. Be straightforward. Avoid the ‘more of you to love’ response. That can sound condescending. Even if her weight isn’t important to you, respect that it may be important to her. Be honest. You like her for who she is. What’s important to her is what is important to you. Be supportive. That doesn’t mean fix it, it means telling her straight up that you want her for her.

Nothing is sexier than a guy who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to show the world how he feels. Hold her hand, look into her eyes, and make her feel like she’s the only girl in the world for you. You can, and should, only focus on the woman you’re with. Treat her like she’s your one true love.

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