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Big Girl Dating

I’ve been overweight all of my life. I used to wear over-sized T-shirts and sweatshirts to parties in junior high and high school because I thought they would hide my tummy and hips better. And when I look back at those photos, all I can see is an insecure, uncomfortable, poorly-dressed girl with very low self-esteem. Dressing for your body speaks volumes about how you view yourself and how you want the world to see you. With the increase of plus-size fashion bloggers, brands, and clothing lines, there really isn’t anything off limits to women who wear a size 12 plus, or bigger.

I thought back on those drab, lonely, formidable years as I made the decision to start my search for love seriously. I went online, at the advice of friends, and found some bbw dating sites. To my surprise, I found several wonderful men who are truly seeking the same thing as me – a life partner who will love ME for ME and who will look past my size and see the “inner”, beautiful me. And that meant working on ME and my insecure weight issues, starting with my wardrobe.

Whether you’re just going down the street to grab some coffee, getting a workout at the gym, out at a club with the girls, off to work, or on your first date with a new man, outfits and style are an important part of feeling great about your body. When you know you look great, you feel great. Goodbye insecurity! Fashion is also an opportunity for people to see just how much you care about your self-worth. And trust me, people LOVE seeing a well put- together plus-sized girl (just ask my co-workers who comment on my adorable outfits every day!).

Dating is 90% mental/visual and 10% physical. There is a method to the art of attraction and it starts with your sexiest organ: the mind! Attracting the right kind of person is all about understanding and valuing yourself, first and foremost, and then trusting that whoever you date will also hold their own self worth in high regard. This will result in a successful, balanced relationship. We all can sense when we’re not being respected, and good men out there know the difference between a woman of self worth and a woman wallowing in self pity. Women who play the damsel in distress rarely end up in successful relationships, mostly because the men who “rescue” them have serious issues of their own. Just food for thought, ladies.

The men I’ve met through bbw dating sites I’ve found to be very honest, secure, and loving people. As a result, I’ve gained more confidence in myself and have discovered that life is to be enjoyed rather than be shied away from. Thinking back to my lonely, younger days motivates me to continue to grow, enjoy, and learn even more about myself not only for me, but for my future love relationships.

Don’t allow yourself to hold back from being the light in someone elses’ life. Or being the light in your own life, for that matter. Love isn’t just for skinny, popular people. Love isn’t something that is denied to those who don’t fit what society deems the “mold”. Love, first and foremost, comes from a deep sense of unconditional self-love, self-esteem, and confidence in yourself and all that you have to offer the right person. These little tips are just some of the life-changing ways love can enter into your curvy life. So go out there, have fun, and practice them. And even better, write some love rules for yourself! Above all, don’t be afraid to find love through online bbw dating sites. You really will be amazed at how fulfilling your life will be.

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