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Big Girl Dating Tips

If you’re single and overweight, it can sometimes feel like there’s no hope in finding your soul mate. Dating while being overweight doesn’t have to be a sentence for loneliness. With the help of the following 5 tips for curvy women who would like to master bbw dating, you can give yourself a chance at true love.

Tip #1: Size only matters if you make it matter.

There is nothing more unattractive to men than leading with any unhappiness regarding your size. If you think your weight is a real factor in your inability to date successfully, then it will actually become a factor. Not because a man told you that’s why or because some magazine said so. It’s because of one crippling belief that you’re holding onto – that you’re just too fat for love.

Don’t assume that your own body image hang-ups are how others see you. If body acceptance is a real struggle for you, it’s important to work through that before you begin dating seriously. You’ll just end up bringing your insecurities into the relationship and that’s no good for anyone involved. Everyone has insecurities, but knowing how to manage and work through your own is a major factor in bbw dating success.

Tip #2: Never lie about who you are and what you look like.

If you’re sincere about wanting to, then you need to be open, honest, and clear about who you are because that is the solid foundation of any relationship. If you lie about how you look, being seen for the first time, face-to-face, will shatter any hope of a second date. You’ll face rejection, but not necessarily because of how you look, but because you’ve already lied and damaged their trust. While it’s scary to be that open, putting the real you out there can mean only one thing. People will respond to the real you in a positive way and that will give you a huge boost of confidence!

Tip #3: Teach others how you want to be treated.

This tip goes a little deeper into what your boundaries and expectations are in bbw dating. Sometimes overweight women can be somewhat of a push-over. They think that if they are overly nice and accommodating, they’ll be more easily accepted and loved. But what ends up happening is that you begin to feel like you’re being taken advantage of, that you’re just settling, and that people won’t respect you.

Setting boundaries and being seen as controlling are not the same thing. Setting boundaries is being grounded and acting with confidence and grace, while the other is out of the fear of being taken advantage of. At the end of the day, if you’re dating someone who isn’t respectful and considerate, it’s sending the message that it’s okay to settle for less than the best. You deserve more than that, so let people show you how well they can treat you.

Tip #4: Always dress fabulous!

Dressing for your body speaks volumes as to how much you care about yourself and what you want the world to know about you. With the rise in many plus-size fashions, brands and clothing lines, there really isn’t anything off-limits to women in sizes 12+.

Whether it’s grabbing coffee, running to the gym, out with the girls, off to work, or your first date with a new man, outfits and style are an important part of feeling great about your body. Fashion is also an opportunity for people to see just how much you care about yourself and your your self worth. People love seeing a well-put- together plus-sized girl!

Tip #5: Learn how to attract and keep men that will love all of you.

It’s been said that bbw dating is 90% mental and 10% physical. There is a method to the art of attraction and it starts with your sexiest organ: the mind. Attracting the right kind of partner is about understanding and valuing yourself. Trusting that whomever you date will also hold their own self worth in high regard will lead to a quality relationship. Good men that are out there and waiting for a good woman to come along know the difference between a woman of self worth and a woman of self pity. And they will choose self worth every time!

Don’t allow yourself to hold back and miss out on being the light in someone else’s life. Love isn’t just for skinny people. Love isn’t something that is denied to those who don’t fit the “standard”mold. Love comes from a deep sense of unconditional self love. These five bbw dating tips are just some of the life-changing ways love can enter into your curvy life. So get out there, practice them, and maybe even write some love rules for yourself!

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