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Being Successful at BBW Dating

For most Americans, success is defined in many forms. The most common forms are love, career, goals, health, overcoming discrimination issues, just to name a few. However, success in some, if not most of these forms may be particularly difficult for overweight people. This sad realization is mostly due to our society’s mistaken pre-conceived notions and pre-judgments/opinions/myths regarding the overweight. We see it in the workplace, in relationships, out in public…everywhere.

Struggling with weight issues is no less difficult than struggling to get to the top of your field in the working world. It’s all relative and should be viewed as such, rather than judged and ridiculed. But we don’t live in a perfect society.

Here are some helpful tips that may help the overweight achieve their success goals and begin to enjoy a more satisfying, enriching, and fulfilling life:

Looking for Love

Trying to find “the one” isn’t what it used to be. It’s doubtful that eyes will meet across a crowded room these days and the two will fall hopelessly in love at first sight. That only happens in the movies, right? While there are always exceptions, this would be especially doubtful for an overweight person. Shouldn’t be that way, but we all know it’s true. In order for that to happen, that “first impression” shouldn’t be due to a person’s size. But since that’s usually the case, the “love at first sight” scenario is highly improbable.

So how is a large person supposed to find a loving relationship? The answer lies in keeping with the times. Although there are still some who try the “meeting someone in a bar or club”, this method seems to have become somewhat outdated. There’s nothing wrong with having a night out on the town and kicking up your heels to some awesome music, but your goal here should be to just have some fun, not to secretly hope to find someone as a potential mate. You’re a “quality” person and your goal should be to find another “quality” person to begin a lasting relationship with.

Online dating has had its stigma in the past. It was pretty much viewed as a person being “desperate” in its infant stage. However, that’s not the case anymore. It’s pretty much the “norm” these days. And with good reason. Online dating gives a person, too busy with day-to-day life, the opportunity to “weed out”, instantly, the roses from the thorns, thus making the chance of success in finding that “quality” person a more attainable goal.

Because we, as human beings are so unique and diverse from one another…no two are exactly alike in every possible way…online dating sites are individually diverse, as well. Depending on what you’re looking for will determine what site you choose that will give you the best chance of success in finding “the one”. For overweight people, bbw dating is a wise choice. This site is designed for overweight people to comfortably connect with other overweight people who can relate to, and are looking for, the same quality of interests, life experiences (usually weight-related), and relationship/life goals without all of the stresses of the “first impression” (size). In no way does this mean that overweight people are “settling” for other overweight people because they think that’s all they can hope to get. It means that only an overweight person can truly understand the ridicule of others and, therefore, know that the quality of a person isn’t measured by their size!

The resulting advantage of bbw dating is fantastic dates and a better chance of finding love. Being able to go on a dinner date, for example, and enjoying the sharing of a meal without the stress and paranoia of being judged for what you’re eating makes a dinner date so much more enjoyable and sparks the “getting-to-know-you” conversations. Thin people don’t worry about people staring at them and judging them when they’re eating, so why should you? You’re just as valuable of a person as they are!

You owe it to yourself to search for finding a long-lasting and loving relationship within a bbw dating site that gives you the best possible tools for success. As an overweight person yourself, you of all people know that “size” doesn’t in any way indicate who that inner, beautiful person is. We’re all looking for love…most of us, anyway…so why not grab your piece of the pie? You’re an awesome, wonderful person with so much to offer the right person and someone out there is searching for you, as well. Give them the means to find you!

Career and Workplace Weight Discrimination

There’s nothing worse than spending a lot of time, money, and effort that gives you the education and skills you need to make a financially comfortable living for yourself, only to encounter discriminatory roadblocks due to your size. Companies often dismiss your work interviews and promotions (if employed with them) because they don’t want that “impression” your size presents to their clientele. Co-workers can be just as cruel, especially at lunch time or satisfying that afternoon “sugar rush” that’s become so popular these days. They do all that without judgment, so why shouldn’t you be able to do that, as well, without judgment?

There are advocates in your corner that help to eliminate discriminatory workplace problems, though. Organizations, such as NAAFA (National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance), is a non-profit, civil-rights organization in the United States dedicated to improving the quality of life for the obese. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provides fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support. Checking this out would not be time wasted.

NAAFA also has a yearly national convention in the summers, which is usually alternated between the east and west coasts. In 2008, they introduced the “NAAFA Size Diversity Toolkit” which educates corporations on quality of life issues and gives companies more of an understanding of an overweight person’s “qualifications” rather than the discriminatory dismissing of them, as a person, due to their size. Strides are now being made, through organizations such as these, to help overweight people be recognized as the valued employees that they are.

With the help and involvement of these sources, overweight people have a much better chance of achieving their career goals and feeling just as accomplished as their counterparts. Climbing the ladder to success is key to one’s self-esteem and confidence which spills into all other aspects of their lives. It’s wise for a person to take advantage and get in involved with every tool available to ensure a happy and fulfilling life. You owe it to yourself!

Importance of Staying Healthy

With the major strides the medical field/technology has made over the past several decades, the American public is being made more and more aware of the importance of being and staying healthy. This is especially true for the overweight. With obesity comes the fear of becoming diabetic, as well as a greater risk for heart disease, strokes, etc. This isn’t news.

Times are tough these days, though, especially with expensive and rising insurance/medical costs. Not everyone can afford to insure themselves effectively for medical care. But that doesn’t mean we can’t do non-insurance things to keep us, hopefully, from needing that medical care as often. For the obese, simply changing their diet can work wonders in achieving reduced health issues.

I’m not suggesting “crash diets” designed to lose weight, although less weight does mean more energy and a healthier life. Being happy with who you are is what’s important, “happy” being the key word. Eating healthier doesn’t mean giving up “happy”. Adjusting your habits/view of what healthy eating is/means is a process. But it’s a process that’s worth looking into and overcoming, which takes time to adjust to, that will improve not only your “healthy” life, but also your life overall…in your love life, your work life, your public life, and most importantly, your long life. You can do it! What’s the point of achieving your goals if you don’t live long enough to enjoy them?

In Summary

Finding love through bbw dating sites, getting involved with support groups for the overweight and organizations like NAAFA, and choosing to eat more healthy (without sacrificing “happy”), will drastically change your life. While we all know that being loved/liked by others is comforting and wanted, it’s even more important that you’re being loved/liked by yourself! Only then, by you taking advantage of every possible resource available and making the appropriate adjustments accordingly, will you give yourself the best possible chance for happiness and the long life you’ve worked hard for and that you deserve. Again, you can do it!

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