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Being Confident and Guidelines for Your BBW Dating Profile

For anyone who is into BBW dating, it is implied that you are a large girl yourself, or an admirer who genuinely enjoys curvy, voluptuous women. BBW dating is a place made up of fun, honest, loving and warm communities where like-minded people come together in a secure environment. But that differs and is not always the case with the “outside world. Things can get somewhat ugly in the real world, and as every BBW can confirm, there are a great deal of men and women who are certainly not especially fond of overweight people. They feel that everyone should conform to their standard of beauty and sometimes, unfortunately, they are really not afraid to say it out loud, right in your face.

Obviously, this can be very hard on BBWs, and their partners or dates also often have to face scorn, disapproval and even explicitly offensive behavior. Below are some of the tips to learn how to ignore, shut off and shut down haters and body-shamers.

Build your confidence

When someone tosses some negativity your way, if your first reaction is depression, anxiety or angriness, it means that you are still not managing it well. The goal is to obtain zero response, which might be unattainable, but you can always focus on it and basically transform your tolerance levels. In order to do that, you need to have great self-confidence.

Self-confidence is essentially quite simply self-love. Every person, small or big, fat or skinny, should love her or himself. Take some time to understand who you are, what your values and qualities are, where you’re coming from and where you’re heading. When you realize how important and valuable you are, your confidence will sky-rocket, and no hater should be able to touch you with their vile words.

Never shame yourself

The moment other people talk unpleasant things about you, it can really catch on and spread. You can get caught up those kind of negative thought patterns, and it can never be a good thing. Do not shame yourself and do not be hard on yourself. Again, self-love is the key. Do not call yourself unpleasant body-shaming names although you may have consumed a gallon of ice-cream you promised yourself you wouldn’t. Rather, make an effort to figure out why is it that you failed that promise to yourself and do not be hard on yourself.

Smile

A smile is an amazing weapon. It can eliminate even the strongest wall. The very next time someone is providing you a difficult time for not being the skinniest person in the world, just flash them your smartest, most irresistible smile. This will throw them off completely. They shall be confused that you’re not upset, and the tables will switch – you will be in the position of power. Plus, a nice big smile is an excellent way to spread some positive vibes and it will probably rub off on your haters as well. Maybe they might even become less rude or obnoxious, who knows?

Call them on their crap

All of us understand that there are days when you simply may no longer feel like fighting the same kind of war for the gazillionth time. But, on other days, you simply have to call out the haters, shamers and bullies on it. Do not allow them to get away with it. You know that if you do, they will just continue to bully and hurt other people as well. Should you hear an unpleasant comment behind your back, turn around and stare the bully straight in the face. This direct eye contact alone will freak them out, giving you an upper hand. What you want to express to them is up to you, but remember to stay polite, because you are better than they are.

Distance yourself

Unfortunately, a hater is sometimes someone very near to you, a good friend, a neighbor, or even a family member. If someone near to you is attempting to body disgrace you or your date, it’s probably time for you to distance yourself from them. A friend who says unpleasant, hurtful things like that is not really your friend, even if he or she is masquerading their hate and bigotry under the phony pretense of friendship and care. You need love, affection, fun, happiness and understanding in your environment, not discrimination (however indirect), judging or bullying.

Now that we have handled the BBW haters and have our self-confidence, here are some tips on how to create the ultimate bbw dating profile:

Certainly one of the main things you have to do when dipping into the competitive pool of online dating is to create a profile that will stand out. Quite simply, you need to figure out a way to keep a potential partner’s attention and the best way to be discovered is to make a profile that will interest and excite them.

Here are 10 great tips on how to make the absolute most of your online bbw dating profile and conquer every website you join:

Do not be scared to ask for help

Should you be not certain how to explain yourself, ask your good friends to help you out. There’s no need to be ashamed; people who are dear to you only want what’s best for you, and sometimes they know you better than you know yourself.

Forget about cliche’ s

The fact that you are looking for love doesn’t imply that you have to write it in those words – everyone is looking for that someone special on BBW dating sites. Everyone loves spending time with their friends, walking on the beach or eating pizza. The only way to stand above the crowd is to convey your own personality, style and originality.

Be Positive

People who always complain, are always negative and never see the positive things in life aren’t attractive. Always be positive about yourself, your physical appearance, and your life. Keep in mind that your profile is basically your online BBW dating CV, and your goal is to present yourself in the best light possible.

Be Honest, Don’t Lie

This really is a simple one. Lying is certain to get you no where fast. Besides, the purpose of finding somebody is for them to like you for you.

Don’t Create False Impressions

Creating a fake profile in order to impress others just creates a bogus image and attracts all the wrong people for you. When you identify who you are, people you’re compatible with will find you.

Be Detail Oriented

Case in point, if you love movies, say which ones are the ones you love and make clear why. By doing this, people who are enthusiastic about you will get the chance to get to know you better. In addition, details are excellent dialogue starters.

Keep Your Profile updated

Keep your account up to date, and add any relevant new information. 

Grammar is important

Naturally, anyone can make a mistake, nevertheless the least you can do is spell check before posting everything to your profile. Remember that many people find poor transliteration (not to mention grammar) a major turn off.

Leave something to the imagination

In a nutshell, don’t write your whole life story on your profile. You wouldn’t tell a total stranger in a club everything about yourself, now would you? Also, bear in mind that women enjoy reading longer profiles, but men like to maintain it brief and sweet.

Photos ARE important

First of all, say cheese. The majority of people prefer those people who appear happy in their pictures because they seem to be friendly, and approachable. Shots from the waist up get the most interest, while far away and low quality images will lead you nowhere. When choosing a profile picture, make sure that you are the focus of attention. However, it is interesting to note that folks who pick action photos for profile pictures, even in cases where their face is not showing, get more messages than those who are obviously posing. It should go without saying that you should upload only recent pictures because one of the most frequent issues of online dating is that folks intentionally choose old photos. Should your picture be more than a year old, don’t use it.

With these tips and guidelines for your BBW dating profile, you should be well versed and confident that you will find your true soulmate. Happy BBW Dating everyone!

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