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BBW Dating Profile Tips

I’m a curvy, plus-size woman whose had her share of dating and trying to find that special, perfect relationship. What I’ve tried and learned over the years, I thought, might be helpful to other large women who may feel frustrated and disillusioned during their search, too.

 

My first nibble at success in meeting new people (that met with my approval) was when I made the decision to check out online dating. After joining several to get a feel for the type of people I may be dealing with – interests, personalities, preferences, true intentions – I chose the one I thought was truly the best bbw dating site.

Then I rolled up my sleeves and put my profile, pictures, and video together before entirely dipping in. My patience and determination paid off. My dating life is now so fun and so exciting. I’m not being looked at like the “fat girl” anymore. The men I’ve agreed to date look at “me”…the real “inside” me. I couldn’t be happier!

So I thought I’d pass on some tips that I’ve used that have produced proven success. Be careful, though, not to be lured into habits that may undermine your online dating experience. Here are some tips to keep in mind to help you stand out among the sea of profiles.

Just Posting a Profile Isn’t Enough

The old adage, “the squeaky wheel gets the grease”, is very true in the online bbw dating world. Posting a profile only will only get you lost in the rapidly increasing numbers of profiles. You actually have to participate in order to get quality dates. Upload an awesome profile pic that shows off your personality, and add some well-crafted text to get his attention. Be honest in what you write and what you’re looking for. Remember…you may meet this person some day and any exaggerations or fibs will soon be detected after spending some time with them. You will also need to start checking in on a regular basis to search for any matches, send messages, respond to any inbox messages, and to organize any dates you may have decided to go on.

Anything worth having is done so by putting in the work. Be patient, vigilant, put in the effort, and it will pay off! Plus-size online dating can be difficult, but it’s not impossible. The right person is out there, but they won’t know it unless you tell them, “Hey, I’m here!”

Prepare Yourself to Be Out There

Online dating can be instant in many ways. It can sometimes take a while in lag time that often occurs. You might send a wink to someone and eagerly wait for their response. When they wink back, you start to message. Rather than this happening in minutes, or even hours in response time, it could take days, depending on the commitment of the people on the dating site.

Online dating takes time and could lure you into feeling like it’s a waste of time. Again, be patient. If you’re a one-man-at-a-time woman, then you’re in for a shock. You’re going to have to change your thinking and start playing the field for a while. If your plan is to send a message to one person you like at a time, you could be be waiting…and waiting…and waiting. Casting a wider net in your plus-size online dating pool and initiating contact with multiple suitors will bring you not only a good selection to choose from, but will give you a full dance card! Get your dating average up.  There’s plenty to choose from on bbw dating and don’t declare yourself exclusive too soon.

Don’t Overkill On Pictures

If what you want to find a real connection, that being a relationship with a person you hope to love and who will love you back, then you will have to bring all you’ve got to the process. Upload only pictures that portray your “real” self; i.e. a full-body pic (no need to try and look thinner than you really are), a pic of you doing something you enjoy, a pic of you and your pet(s) if you have any, etc. This will give a good idea of who you really are by putting your best foot forward, but without giving away too much. Save some “intrigue” for your dates.

 

Don’t Go Crazy Over Details

It’s rare to find someone who likes absolutely everything that you do, so don’t overlook someone who has most of the qualities you’re looking for, but not all of them. It’s exciting to try new things and maybe some of what he lacks might be something he’d like to try, and vice versa.

Instead, focus more on: Do they live in the same city? Do they like to read? Do they seem intelligent?

Don’t get side-swiped with the idea that someone out there matches exactly to all of your interests and preferences. After all, the chances are that there are many of your exes out there who didn’t share your exact tastes, either, and nine times out of 10, it isn’t why you two broke up. So if you obsess about the little things, you’re likely to pass over the profiles of wonderful people who might actually make you happy.

Consider The Tone Of Your/Their Profile

An important factor in evaluating a profile is its “tone”. It can be difficult to try and get across who you are, as well as your likes and dislikes, what you want in a relationship, etc., by just writing about it in a few sentences (you don’t want to give them too much to read all at once). It’s equally difficult to get a sense of what the other person is like, so making that a little easier on both sides will prove more than productive.

I won’t lie, this is definitely a challenge. But you can do it! It’s important to read between the lines to get a real sense of whether the person seems sincere and well-adjusted (pleasant, friendly, someone you would be drawn to if you met them in person).

Look very closely for signs of boasting, cockiness, or bitterness. Also, look closely for insincerity: i.e. someone claiming over and over again to have “absolute love” for their life just the way it is, to be “completely and totally” satisfied with everything in it. These people usually join bbw dating sites on impulse (“my friend suggested it and I figured why not?”). This behavior usually suggests that this person might have trouble being honest about his or her real feelings and/or true motives.

Attention to “tone” when you read profiles will help you to weed out some of those types of qualities.

Ignore Personality Claims

Disregard most of a person’s explicit claims about his/ her personality. For example, “I have a sense of humor about myself”, or “I’m an optimist.” People are usually not very reliable when diagnosing themselves. That’s not just because they lie (although that’s a possibility, too), but it’s because of the way we see ourselves often bears little resemblance to how others see us.

The only explicit claims worth taking into account are the actual facts: job, age, education, and location. When it comes to less tangible qualities, people are just too biased and those can be addressed if met in person.

Don’t Get Too Swept Away Based Solely On a Profile

No matter how much of an expert you begin to regard yourself to be at reading profiles, and no matter how well this person seemingly corresponds to your dream match, there’s still a lot you won’t be able to truly see or know until you’re sitting across from them at a coffee shop.

The true test is when you meet in person. You can learn so much from a person by their manner, gestures, body language, and demeanor; whether they make eye contact with when speaking, their tone when speaking, etc. You can also notice any social niceties; like what sort of effort they make to ask you questions about yourself, whether they make sincere compliments, or if they’re constantly checking their phone while you’re trying to have a two-way conversation. If that’s the case, dump them!

So much vital information can only be disclosed in person. The goal shouldn’t be to find your perfect match, but rather to cut down the possibilities to a reasonable number, and then to meet those sincere people in person. I found that’s where bbw dating offers the best possibilities.

Don’t Become Dumb Struck After Two Dates

No one should fantasize about a “life” with someone after just one or two dates under any circumstances. That only happens in the movies. But the temptation to do so can be even greater when you’ve met someone online. There’s mystery and intrigue in his profile (of course there is!), and so the excitement that can build in your mind, based on what he’s communicating, can grow out of control. Don’t let that happen!

This can happen when we just get so worn down with dating that we just want to be done with it and rush into a relationship. But getting too attached too soon is counter-productive to building a healthy, long-lasting relationship. There’s a fine line between “infatuation” and “love”. It takes time for the infatuation to wear off and see if love endures.

It can be hard when you so badly want to find “the one,” but getting to know another person truly takes time and patience. Try bbw datingput in the work, effort, time, and patience, and you’ll be amazed at the results!

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