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To my surprise, I discovered that there’s actually an academy for dating which is especially helpful for us large and curvy women who have had bad experiences with dating. Some of us have even given up! Not to worry, though. After checking out this academy’s information, my excitement grew greater.

The Smart Dating Academy in Chicago, founded by Bela Gandhi, was designed with the sole purpose of helping single men and women find the partners of their dreams. Having started this business because she believes in love and believes that love exists for every person out there, I have to say that I totally agree with her. The dating tips advice that she provides gave me so much more confidence when going out on first dates.

To add to my excitement, I also found an online bbw dating site, that is geared towards helping large, curvy women find men who are seeking the same, and vice versa. With the Smart Dating Academy’s tips in mind, I found my first dates through this service to be so comfortable and exciting. Most of my apprehensions were eliminated from the start!

Practicing some of Bela Gandhi’s precautions and tips also added to many successful first dates through bbw dating. She said, “The first thing you need to do is get to your positive self.” She says, “If you don’t believe that you’re going to find love, guess what’s going to happen? You’re not going to find it.” Again, I agree! So I’m going to share some of her tips with you:

Photos Are Key

It’s often not realized that 90% of online dating success is based on photos. That goes for both men and women. The most important photo, and first one seen, is your opening head-shot. It’s the main photo that will get people’s attention and make them want to click and see more. Smile and look at the camera so there’s a clear shot of your face. It’s wise to be alone in the photo (no friends, family, pets, or babies).

Dress Impressively

You should be dressed nicely for your photos in your profile. They will take you a long way. Gandhi recommends doing your hair and makeup as if you would for an important date. Wear pretty, solid-colored blouses and shirts that are fitted, but that don’t reveal too much.

Check Your Grammar

No text-type abbreviations or expressions. Poor spelling and grammar are pretty universal turn offs by someone looking for a quality person. Of 1,000 people surveyed by Smart Dating Academy, more than 60% of respondents said they would not respond to someone with poor grammar or who are unable to communicate properly.

Be Positive

Avoid talking about your divorces, past relationships, personal troubles, etc. Do not expressly state what you’re not looking for. Gandhi recommends showing your warm, fun side that will be more attractive to others, rather than being viewed as someone who needs “rescuing”.

Get To The Point

You should use creative, but truthful, words that describe yourself and what you’re looking for. Showing, rather than telling is preferable. For example, write some adventurous things you’ve done instead of just saying you’re “adventurous”. Profiles should be limited to about 300 to 350 words, not too long and not too short.

Choose a Catchy Username and Headline

Choosing 3 to 5 adjectives that describe yourself can help you come up with an interesting username. For example, if you’re a nurse who is also a great cook, “TopChefNurse” would be a great, catchy username. Steer clear of sexual undertones in your username. That may attract the wrong sort of people and lead to disappointing, and maybe even stressful, dating experiences.

Refine Your Preferences

Jot down the qualities you’re really looking for in a marriage. This will help you navigate through the millions of people online. Think of it as your road map to dating. After each new meeting/date, check your “map” to see how many of your preferred qualities your date had. Doing this will help you stay focused on what you really want versus what you may be swayed by. Those usually end in ultimate disaster.

Create a Plan

Finding a plan you can stick with (i.e. similar interests, personal qualities, time set aside for meeting new people, etc.) is the only way to really get what you want out of online dating. You’ll get out of it what you put into it. And that means spending 30 to 60 minutes each day working towards your goal of finding true love. Establishing yourself on bbw dating sites for example, makes this process easy and exciting.

Prepare What To Talk About

Consider meeting a new person as you would a job interview. Practice what you’re going to say and what you want to find out about that person. Knowing exactly how to talk about yourself, why you’re single, your family, etc., can help you both ease nerves on that first date and also helps prevent over-sharing. While it’s necessary to talk about yourself in the “getting to know you” process, remember to also “listen” and ask interesting questions, too, of the other person. Try and maintain a “balance” of talking and listening.

Never Stop Believing

Surrounding yourself with positive people who will help you in your search will aid in your finding that special person. The stronger your faith is in finding that special person, the greater success you will have. He or she is out there and waiting for you to find them! This is especially true with bbw dating sites because you are surrounded by people who are looking for the same thing and in your own peer group of overweight singles who don’t judge and just want to find love.

I hope you all will find the success I did in putting Bela’s tips to work, and I do hope you check out bbw dating, as well. With these two resources, I’ve found dating to be much more exciting, fun, positive, and hopeful that my true love is out there and waiting for me!

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