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BBW Dating – Be Confident!

I’m not the best when it comes to talking about bbw dating, but I decided to actually make an attempt to write this post. To me being plus size and dating doesn’t have to be difficult. I believe that there are men out there in this big world that do genuinely love plus size women, not only for their bodies, but for all the other things she can bring to the table. I think sometimes, we as women, need to take that leap of faith and open ourselves up to it.

I’m sure some of you have asked yourself what it is going to be like to date, and what to do if you get self conscious when it comes to finding, dating and keeping a man. I’m in a very fulfilling relationship right now, but prior to him I dated a little, nothing that was too serious…definitely none to bring home to mom, but it’s a process and I had fun. It’s interesting, me being plus size never bothered me, and it shouldn’t bother you either. It’s something I can’t really explain, but it’s something I just didn’t care about. I know I’m a good person and beautiful on the inside and outside and never allowed anyone to make me think bad of myself or unattractive. I was never self conscious about myself around the guys that I dated, and I like to think that that’s part of the reason we got along. The men that I’ve dated never had a problem with my body and I knew that from the start because I found them on an online bbw dating site so I knew they were looking for a plus size woman and weight would not be an issue.

When I was younger and didn’t know any better I struggled. I didn’t like my body. I thought I had to be like my skinny friends to get any attention. I would see all these other girls with their boyfriends and wondered what that feeling would be like. But then again I was a teenager and very naive. At the time I didn’t have a fraction of the confidence I have now.

You know that there will be jerks in the world that will date you because they think you have low self esteem. I’ve been there, done that, but I nip that in the bud from the get go. There will be some that will have a fetish for big woman and try to make you their toy. Those kinds of guys are scum and not worth your time or energy. Make it known that you aren’t here for that type of foolishness and stand by that.

You are a beautiful plus size woman, own it! Take the time to dress yourself, put on your favorite lipstick, style your hair, take up a new hobby that fulfills you or do something every day that will give you confidence. You will have some days when you just aren’t feeling yourself and that happens, you’re human, but when you have confidence in yourself, you love yourself, and when you love yourself you’re able to love your partner.

If you are truly interested in finding someone and looking for a relationship, I found that the easiest and best way is to join an online bbw dating site. My best advise when posting a profile on a bbw dating website is to be honest, clear and concise as to what and who you are looking for and above all to post a photo. Most people aren’t interested in chatting with someone without a picture. They want to see who they are talking to.

It also shows you’re serious about meeting and finding someone. Some might even get the wrong impression and think you’re hideous or something! The mind plays evil tricks and wanders into some weird scenarios if you don’t have a visual in front of you.  You could also be mistaken for a fraud or scammer and also might not show up on searches because a lot of people set their search functions to show only profiles with photographs.  You could get less or no replies if you initiate contact as people are wary of profiles without photographs.

Here are some tips that will help you choose a good photo of yourself for your BBW dating profile.

1.  Raise the camera slightly higher than your face.

2.  Angle your face slightly to one side. This will give more definition to your jaw and cheekbones.

3.  Smile. It doesn’t have to be a giant cheesy grin. A slight smile tends to be the kindest.

4.  Look directly into the lens of the camera as this gives the impression you are looking at the person viewing the picture.

5.  Finally, I would recommend not over doing the makeup as this can detract from your natural beauty. Overly made up people can also at times be a bit intimidating.

You want to look like the very best you. Another good thing to keep in mind is where your light is. I find that a bright light is good as it really makes your eye color stand out which is always a good thing!

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