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BBW Dating and You!

As a plus-sized, curvy woman, I’ve always been frustrated by the very little selection of my favorite clothing brands. Clothing manufacturers often do not recognize the needs of the larger sized shopper, so finding styles in plus sizes is just not that simple. I end up having to take what I can get and feeling “frumpy” as a result. I’m just tired of fading off into the background.

Frumpy” is not the first impression I want to make when going on dates. After discovering an awesome online bbw dating site, it was time to go on a shopping spree and put my “frumpy” clothes to rest. But not surprisingly, that was a more difficult task than expected.

It’s always difficult for us larger women to find clothes that are perfect for whatever occasion it is that you’re dressing for. Smaller women don’t have that problem. The selection of clothing in the size 2 and up range takes up an entire section of the department store, leaving a very small section for plus sizes. We’ve all been there, right?

Being the determined person that I am, though, I refused to be dissuaded in my quest for a new me. Dressing in ways that make you feel pretty gives you confidence when meeting new people. And I wanted to meet new people. It’s often mistaken that people dress for others. The truth is, you dress for yourself. If you’re not confident in how you’re feeling when you present yourself, in any atmosphere, than a good first impression is doomed. I wanted to give the best first impression possible when meeting my matches via bbw dating.

Perfecting plus-size fashion, I’m sure, is more complicated than just extending a label’s size range. Merely sizing up from size 2’s and 4’s into larger sizes is treating a plus-sized customer like a rectangle that flatters no one. Personally, I don’t think clothing manufacturers understand the needs of plus-sized women. There are many “taboos” that larger women are told to consider when buying fashionable clothes, such as no vertical stripes, no waste belts, no tuck-ins, etc. The selections we’re pretty much left with are like throwing on a Moo-Moo!

I can’t speak for other women, but I want to feel “pretty” in my clothes. I want to portray confidence. Since I do take into account all of the “taboos”, I want my “layered” clothing to flow and feel comfortable when worn. So I began a search, went on a “quest”, so to speak, to find clothes that flattered me, both in comfort and in style. I’ve always felt that my clothes also reflected my personality which range from a professional look to a whimsical, playful look.

I found a great website for fashionable larger-sized clothing: zulily.com Their selection was wonderful! Not only did I find a large array of color, but their styles just added to my excitement. I felt pretty!

I read about how they were able to turn out such great clothing for larger women and found that: “To produce full-figured clothing well, it needs to be created on a fit model that truly represents the shopper. Professional fit models guide designers into adjusting proportions and tweaking individual clothing styles to look great on their body. Even then, full-figured shoppers could be very busty, pear-shaped or even muscular. One fit model cannot possibly cover every body shape in that size range.”

Since there are some manufacturers that take all of these factors into account, they are able to produce clothes for the larger woman that add color and style to any shape or size. My clothes shopping experiences are now fun and exciting versus frustrating and disappointing. And my closet is now a variety of color, as well as style.

When going out on dates now, it’s fun to finally have a choice of outfits to choose from. I’m beginning to know how the size 2’s feel when they spread their clothes out on the bed, putting their outfits together. No longer are my choices just reaching in my closet and grabbing whatever is most handy since there wasn’t much difference in any piece.

The most common brands, I found, that specialize in plus-sized clothing sizes are Eloquii, Lane Bryant and The Avenue. These are the most recognizable companies because they specialize in the larger bodies. There are plenty of plus-sized fashionable labels developed specifically for larger customers who have to rely on word of mouth, but I found many stylish labels at Full Figured Fashion Week catering to all price ranges and demographics. They came from around the world and served everything from swimwear, office wear, special occasions, and everything in between. They are ready to serve curvy girls hungry for style.

Curvy girls, I think, treat fashion like dating. If your favorite designer ignores you, give your love to the ones willing to spend their time and money to woo you. You’ll find that willingness to be true on bbw dating too. They are out there and like any suitor, are trying hard to get to know your body. Seek out the good guys that may be under the radar. Your wardrobe is a relationship totally worth investing in!

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